18 Struggles of Being Both Outgoing and Shy

[Paranoia]

http://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest ... troverted/

[A§H»JÓÒK]

It's probably a huge struggle to be shy.

Yet it could be a significant weight on the one or two best friends alluded to in point #2,
especially if they don't realize that they're the person's 'entire life'. Compound that with
being the only friend for 2 or 3 shy and introverted people. The stress probably takes its
toll on everyone involved.

[Paranoia]

Yeah. I can't even imagine how it would feel to be publicly crapped on by one of those friends...gee I'd bet that would be super hard on someone who isn't very outgoing...

[A§H»JÓÒK]

But you could imagine how it would feel for that one friend to have to always evade
he rest of their friends -- for years -- out of fear for alienating their first friend?

Sometimes it takes a person being in the receiving end of a healthy dose of, ...
mud for them to understand how they treat the majority of other people
(including the best friend's other friends), most of the time.

Some people don't ask to be the only link to reality, no matter how close they are.
But they can still try and they still make mistakes. Just because one person is shy and
introverted doesn't have make them immune to civil public discourse,
hypothetically of course.

I can image how this type of shyness could lead a lot of people, including best friends,
to believe the person is simply full of rage and hate as opposed to being introverted.

I've been shy and have known shy people.
Acting shy AT versus being shy AROUND people are two different things, only in my experience.
Acting shy AT, a.k.a Rage doesn't solicit feelings of warmth or gratitude,
if it does that's a virtue I would be most eager to learn.

Look, this thread and our two posts are thinly veiled. You're shy, I'm not.
The rest of my friends aren't. Best friends (you and me, and for that matter Mandalore and me)
should be more understanding of each other. I want you to be friends with them
but it's not a requirement in order to be my friend. All I ask of them is to treat you with
respect and all I ask of you is the same.

Bottom line: I'm sorry I took a quasi-public dump on you in the
Soldier's barracks section of the forums. I've known you longer than
anyone else at A§H (except for perhaps CUK!). I do need you as a freind.

[Paranoia]

I am sorry that you felt you had to choose between me and other friends. That was never my intention. I did not realize that you felt forcibly included in my anti-social shenanigans...I guess all I can say is I won't ever make you feel like that again.

I didn't know that's how you felt. You never told me...you waited until you were so stressed about it that you went off on me...publicly. You could have said the same things to me PRIVATELY that you said in that thread, and the words would've served their purpose without the added humiliation and embarrassment to me. From my point of view, this came out of no where...all of a sudden my best friend was driving the hate-on-para bus...in front of the whole clan no less...publicly berating me as a terrible person, "a feral animal"... I didn't deserve that and I do appreciate your apology.

Going forward, I will try my best to be clear and direct in my social endeavours.

[Pr@3tor]

Guys, I have cake, I will share it if you want?...

[A§H»JÓÒK]

Guys, I have cake, I will share it if you want?...

If we get to choose, I like red velvet cake the most.
But P should decide.

[Mandalor]

The amount of surrogated characters and metafiction in this concept is a lot.
-Mandalor